Last week I introduced yielding and how it can help you get your way in a conflict or argument.
Today, I’ll show you how to use yielding to take the stress out of your life.
Most of us are so busy that we rarely take the time to let go and unwind.
This is not good.
As women, we are happiest when we are relaxed. If we are under constant pressure, we lose touch with our innate wisdom, which leads to bad decisions, poor judgment, resentment and a loss of vitality. When life gets difficult, our system gets out of sync.
Ease in life comes from finding and following your own rhythm. When you relax into a flow that soothes and supports your timing, you start to create magic. This magic creates attraction. You’ll be in tune with yourself.
“We cannot see our reflection in running water. It is only in still water that we can see.” – Taoist Proverb
You may have experienced this: You are without a worry on your mind and life moves without effort. Parking opens up right in front of you, the barista at your coffee shop doesn’t charge you for your latte that morning and you reach the client you have been trying to get in touch with all week. You are happy, you are relaxed and life is the way it is supposed to be.
How can you have this kind of ease every day?
To maintain your timing and to create a sense of flow, use the tool of yielding. Yielding takes the stress out of life. You simply give way to the pressure inside you. Instead of pushing, you let go. At first, this may go against your better knowledge. If you are used to going the extra mile, working hard, and pushing past the point of exhaustion, it may feel uncomfortable to let go.
Do it anyway. Take a break, chill out, be yourself and live by your own rules. Who knows, maybe life will start to come your way instead of you chasing after it?
Yielding In Action:
- Observe yourself ~ What area of your life holds the most pressure? Where do you get short fused and irritated? And which are the areas that flow with ease? Take a closer look at the stresses. How can you eliminate them?
- Take responsibility for your happiness ~ Be honest with yourself. Are you doing too much in too little time? Are you doing more than you actually want to? Are you depriving yourself of the simple pleasures in life like taking a nap, going on a walk, taking a bath, or having some alone time?
- Take action ~ Do you dread getting ready every morning to take your kids to school? Find a way to carpool with someone who prefers mornings over afternoons. If the business you loved a few years ago has become stale, learn to delegate some of your responsibilities and make time for fun again. Be bold when it comes to your own needs. I do cancel meetings and turn off the phone when I have a bad day.
- Make time for yourself ~ This is essential. Life is easier when you are relaxed. Schedule time for doing nothing, getting a massage, taking a nap, walking, pondering, dreaming.
- Give up being right ~ Last but not least, yielding is the art of letting go. Stop being hard on yourself and drop the argument that there just isn’t enough time to do what you want. Try it out for one day and see what happens.
These are some of the ways I use to keep myself happy. If you have other strategies that work for you, please share them with us in the comment section below or simply write to me to me, I’d love to hear from you.
As always, thank you for reading.
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Surrendering to Yourself by Iris Krasnow
Synchronicity: The Inner Path of Leadership by Joseph Jaworski