Have you ever experienced the amazing effect of power and healing that comes with forgiveness?
Your heart softens, your body relaxes and your spirit lifts. Forgiveness propels you from a place of stress, anxiety and anger toward ease, peace of mind and physical well being. It makes you more compassionate, optimistic and self-confident. I also believe that it heals your soul.
Keeping anger and resentment alive creates a viscous cycle of negative thoughts that keep you entrapped in the past.
Being able to forgive requires greatness and humility. It means to accept others for their mistakes and to let go of the urge to hurt back.
This can be a tall order.
We all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. By forgiving others you’ll ultimately forgive yourself.
Brian Tracy wrote a wonderful article, “4 People You MUST Forgive”. He states that the four people you have to forgive are your parents, your close personal relationships, everyone who has ever hurt you and finally, yourself. Forgiveness only goes so far if you can’t forgive yourself.
How do you forgive? Here is a simple practice I’d love you to try:
Check in with yourself and make a mental note of all the people in your life you are holding a grudge against. Who are you angry with? Who has hurt you or caused you pain?
One way to recognize this is by the way your heart tightens when you think of them. Be aware that this may also involve yourself. Are you hard on yourself for something you have done in the past?
Once you know who you need to forgive, take responsibility and let them go. Say the words, “I forgive you for __________________ and I wish you well.”
Keep your ‘forgiveness prayer’ short and simple – or take a piece of paper and write it down in detail. Sometimes it feels good to get all that stuff off your chest. Just make sure to burn the paper and to let it go after you are done.
You may have to repeat this process a few times until you feel no resentment left towards the person(s) in question.
With practice, you’ll notice that forgiving and letting go will come easier and more immediate over time. You won’t have to hold on to anger or hurt feelings anymore and you’ll understand that being upset is a choice you don’t have to make.
I would love to hear your thoughts or questions and find out if this resonates with you.
As always, thank you for reading,
Related article: The Secret Ingredient for an Amazing Life
More about the topic at The International Forgiveness Institute
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