People and their emotions have an effect on you at all times.
Whether you are working in an office, sitting in a coffee house or visiting with friends, you’ll be impacted by other people’s positive or negative feelings.
Have you ever experienced how talking to someone who is upset can change your mood? Or, how the visit of a best friend can uplift an otherwise crummy day?
However invisible your emotions may be, you share them with the people around you. In the most radical situations, this can cause pain (stomach ache, head ache, cramps, etc.). In most cases, however, it shows up as a little interference similar to a radio channel that is not set to the right frequency. And while you can’t see the interference, your body will sense its impact.
“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow
Coaching yourself is quite different from working with a coach.
In self coaching a new degree of intensity and discipline is added to the process. The outside guide who keeps you focused and provides you with feedback is replaced with an inner guide. Self-awareness and the willingness to take an honest look at yourself are key in the self coaching process. (more…)
We connect with people through words and often those words are misunderstood, argued with and judged.
If you learn to speak with appreciation and positive regard, eliminating criticism, pressure or blame from your language, you’ll be one of the few to reach people on a deep and intimate level.
To do this, you have to replace negativity with curiosity and adopt a communication style that creates harmony instead of discord. (more…)
Having a rough time?
Not happy with the way things are going? Dreaming of a better planet and more pleasant human beings?
Here’s the deal: There’ll always be something in life to p*#@ you off. One way or another things will rub you the wrong way, disrupt the flow, disturb the harmony and trip you up.
Once you get rid of one source of frustration, another one will show up.
You can bet on it. It’s part of life. (more…)
“Silence has its own music; it is silence that enables us to see ourselves and the things around us.” -Paulo Coelho
Until you know your deepest passion and reason for being, you are free-floating through life.
And, no matter how much you accomplish or how much wealth you accumulate, you’ll keep looking for more. There’ll be a sense of dissatisfaction, a feeling that something is missing and the nagging suspicion that it’ll never be enough.
Knowing who you are provides confidence, a sense of calm and quiet joy. Your worth and your place in the world are clear; you are content with your choices and realize that you don’t need much to be happy, no great wealth to feel complete.
To know your inner truth you don’t have to do more or think harder. (more…)
My husband and I had dinner at a small European restaurant, sitting outside along the sidewalk and enjoying the wonderful warm summer evening.
Next to us was an elderly couple with a baby in a stroller. The little one was happy and the grandparents enamored with her.
During the course of the dinner I couldn’t help but observe the fascination this baby caused. Anyone passing the table, waiters, the maitre d’, guests as well as pedestrians stopped to look at her, smile and start all kinds of baby conversations. The grandparents readily answered any questions and people left the table cheerful and delighted.
Wow! Do you remember the last time you caused such a stir? (more…)
Whether you are aware of it or not, you have specific values that guide you through life.
Actions and behaviors you believe in and base your decisions on.
Principles you follow and use as a code of reference.
Some of your values may have been passed on by your family and some of them are intrinsically yours.
Living in accordance with your values will make you feel balanced and happy. (Click to tweet if you agree)
It’s when you deviate from your values that you get into trouble. (more…)
I use it in a slightly moderated way:
Find out what turns you on,
do more of it.