Lies don’t work.
We all know it and still, we keep using lies to avoid … what exactly?
Are we afraid others won’t accept us if they find out who we are? Are we ashamed to admit our mistakes?
Or, are we trying to protect people from the cold hard facts?
In most cases, lying to ourselves and to others is a cop-out. (more…)
My daughter and I went to Michaels a few days ago to buy yarn. She has discovered the art of making crochet beanies and wants to give them away for Christmas.
What was supposed to be a pleasant shopping experience turned into a major ordeal.
The parking lot was packed. The store was a zoo. The check-out line was huge and I got the disquieting feeling that this was just the beginning of the craziness we call the Holiday Season. (more…)
Last week I talked about life dreams – and how the vision for your future already exists within you.
The same is true for your natural gifts and talents. They, too, are deeply entrenched in every part of your being.
To find them, pay close attention to the elements in your life that intrigue and inspire you.
Twenty years ago, I took a seminar to find out what I wanted to do with my life. I had accomplished the things I thought were important and now I was at a loss not knowing what to do next. Secretly, I was looking for purpose and meaning. (more…)
“You are the world, and the world is you.”
I was driving along Pacific Coast Highway the other day on my way to meet a client, when I realized that I had carried the dream of this drive in my soul my whole life.
In that moment I understood that our true desires are not shallow fantasies or pipe-dreams, but solid and lasting entities – and that fulfilling them brings ultimate joy.
I remembered that as a kid I had taken great pleasure in collecting images of sun-drenched coastlines, golden palm trees, and blue skies. The certainty that somewhere in the world that place existed made me deeply happy. It even had a name: California.
How I learned to trust my own voice.
Many years ago, when running my own business was still new, I found myself at a dead end.
I had discovered what I loved doing and the money wasn’t following. As a matter of fact, the harder I tried, the more it went away.
I had lost my job, I was broke and I had two kids to feed. I told myself that being without a job was probably a blessing since now I could dedicate myself to my passion 100%. I was making one hundred cold calls a day to no or little avail and was growing more and more desperate.
What was the missing ingredient? (more…)
You are born special.
You have a purpose.
You have a craft
- an art –
that’s intimately yours.
Call it your gift, your calling or your inherent talent.
Finding it can be a lifelong quest filled with trepidation, doubt and fear – as well as enthusiasm, passion and wonder.
Certain signs along the way will tell you whether or not you are on your path toward destiny. Below, I am listing a few to help you stay on track.
People and their emotions have an effect on you at all times.
Whether you are working in an office, sitting in a coffee house or visiting with friends, you’ll be impacted by other people’s positive or negative feelings.
Have you ever experienced how talking to someone who is upset can change your mood? Or, how the visit of a best friend can uplift an otherwise crummy day?
However invisible your emotions may be, you share them with the people around you. In the most radical situations, this can cause pain (stomach ache, head ache, cramps, etc.). In most cases, however, it shows up as a little interference similar to a radio channel that is not set to the right frequency. And while you can’t see the interference, your body will sense its impact.
“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow
Coaching yourself is quite different from working with a coach.
In self coaching a new degree of intensity and discipline is added to the process. The outside guide who keeps you focused and provides you with feedback is replaced with an inner guide. Self-awareness and the willingness to take an honest look at yourself are key in the self coaching process. (more…)