I love rituals and have many of them.
Rituals can help you to find happiness in the smallest things; they turn the ordinary into the extraordinary; they are magical.
With rituals you can keep a healthy balance of body, mind and soul and bring meaning to your daily routines and actions.
Here is my end of the year ritual that I use to rid myself of past hurts or grievances.
End of the Year Ritual
This ritual is best performed in the days between Christmas and the New Year, when the peacefulness of the holidays invites you to reflect on the past year: how it has enriched you, how it has changed you, and what you’ve learned.
It’s also a great time to let go of negative emotions, outdated beliefs, and grudges that have accumulated over the course of the year. Without taking time to reflect on what you want to leave in 2016 you might jump into the New Year carrying your past hurts with you. Yet, if you consciously let go of what’s not serving you anymore, you’ll make room for new experiences in healthy and enriching ways.
Take some undisturbed time and a few pieces of paper. If you wish, prepare your space by lighting a candle or burning some incense.
On one of your papers write, “Hurts, fears, and other grievances that I want to let go of.”
On another page put, “People I want to forgive and set free.”
Write, “Old habits and beliefs that I want to release,” on your third page.
If there is more, simply label your last paper, “Everything else I want to leave behind”.
Start filling the pages with all the thoughts, beliefs, habits, regrets, and grudges that have been bothering you, hurting you, aggravating you, or annoying you over the last year. The stuff that comes up when you are waiting at a stop light or when you have time to think.
Let it rip.
This is not an introspective exercise to examine your emotions. It merely serves to cleanse. Tune into your body and mind and let all the negative thoughts, feelings, and stories come up.
Once the flow ebbs on one sheet, move on to the next. You know when you are done: a great sense of calm settles in and your heart feels so much lighter. Yeah!
Date the pages, fold them, and put them in an envelope.
Find a secure place to burn your notes. You can perform a small ceremony in your garden, at the beach, or on your favorite trail; you can also simply burn the envelope in your fireplace. As you watch the flames and see the ashes fly away, take a deep breath and ask the universe to help you let go.
Do you have end of the year rituals that you cherish and that might help others transition into the New Year? Please share them in the comments below.
Thank you for being part of my journey. May 2018 be your best year yet.
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