The world is changing at an amazing rate.
The internet has made it possible for everyone to tune into the global consciousness, which is producing an enormous spiritual shift. This creates a craving for personal enlightenment and well being.
On the business level, people are creating enterprises that reflect their inner values, designed to make a real contribution to the world. Entrepreneurship affects the business world in an interesting way: it’s transforming from competing for money to collaborating and sharing resources.
Each one of us is called to step up and become the best version of ourselves. This means cleaning up our act, developing new patterns and letting go of old, negative thoughts and belief structures.
In my last post, I talked about three unproductive habits: pessimism, misleading and complaining, and how to transform them into more positive ones. Today’s post is about quitting, trying to be superwoman and spoiling the game.
Three Unproductive Habits and How to Change Them
For the longest time women believed we had to behave like men to succeed in the business world. While this has led to advancement in the work force, it has also isolated us and created a sense of competition among women that is not healthy for the feminine spirit.
If you have a hard time asking for help and developed an ‘I can do it all myself’ attitude, it may be time for you to give in a little and allow others to be there for you. Collaboration is a feminine trait and spending quality time with other women keeps us happy and strong.
Have you ever been on a team that is going full speed and all of a sudden one of the players decided to stop? It spoils the fun for everyone and breaks trust.
I often observe that women quit when what they really need is to take a break. If you have a hard time following through on your projects, cancel appointments often, and back out of commitments, take an honest look: are you overextending yourself and setting your goals to high? If you break your word, people lose trust in you. Notice the pattern and make a point to follow through. This also means that you get more selective about your agreements.
Spoiling the Game
There are different ways to play this game, from seeing obstacles everywhere and being overly pessimistic, to straight out sabotage. In a world where only the fittest survive, you might think you have no other choice. If you notice that you have a hard time allowing others to succeed and get overly jealous, spoiling the game may be your way of making sure nobody wins.
To change this pattern, make sure that you get what you need. Not by sabotaging others, but by finding out what it is you love doing and going after it. Focus on your own well-being and stop comparing yourself to others. Notice when you engage in negative or destructive thinking habits and consciously switch to a more positive behavior. Have fun and don’t compromise on your goals. Set them high and meet them. You are special and unique in your own way, and you can get what you need to be happy while others do the same.
In next week’s post I’ll talk about playing the nice game, always running late, and being a know-it-all. Stay tuned and as always, thank you for reading.
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Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind And Your Life by Martin Seligman
The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want by Sonja Lyubomirsky
Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman