Comments on: Women – It’s Time to Take Responsibility For Our Happiness

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 03 Aug 2025 00:26:10 +0000

Not sure I agree with the ‘idyllic women in groups’ bit – my experience of women in groups is that they delight in reputationally destryong each other and, more often than not, any ‘kindness’ or ‘community’ is nothing more than manipulative BS for some short term gain. They then just as quickly purge their new ‘BFF’ and move on…particularly if a man comes into their life. Let’s just be honest with ourselves – feminism has not been a net positive. Sure, 1st wave and 2nd wave, but since then, it’s all garbage and has pitted us against men and made us miserable. But we do it to ourselves. If we really DO what to take responsibility for our happiness, it’s time to stop drinking the ‘women are perfect, women are above criticism, women are always victims, women can and should have it all’ kool-aid. Be better; better friends, better mother’s, better partners. Create your own story and version of happiness in your life, not some unattainable media BS version, so faux-tough girl empty crap. Admit we need our men. Admit we might love to raise kids, admit we have made ourselves pretty damn unapproachable and unattractive to the opposite sex. Revel in being a FEMALE. There is true power in it. In short – cut the crap and grow up and get over ourselves: that would be true female empowerment it seems to me. Want to be an engineer? Stop whiny about patriarchy and MAKE IT HAPPEN. Want to be a mother and raise amazing kids? DO IT and be proud. Want to make your man happy so he’s happy with you? GO FOR IT. Be feminine. And cut all the rest of the bullsh*t. We’ve had enough of it for decades now.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:50:45 +0000

I really like your perspective. Rather than argue about the data, you’re taking it as a “what if it’s true” sort of thing. Intriguing.

You may be interested in another perspective – that of personal reflection and the role that plays in our happiness.

By: Anette

Anette — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:55:10 +0000

I love what you wrote and the final question. I am happiest when able to take a nice long walk in the woods or sleep the whole night, not wrestling with petty thoughts/stuff. Meditation has helped me tremendously and when I was introduced to sleep sounds (www.sleepaidrecords.com) it was like a whole new world opened for me. The thought re-direction has done the trick. I thrive on goals, personal goals. If i don’t have them I am just wondering around. I like to fix things for the family yet I feel that I need to be more masculine in my career yet I am not sure I want one…