Countless times people have told me that I changed their lives. What they might not know is that in return they have changed mine. It’s a give and take, an exchange of love and attention. And to me, it’s one of the most satisfying experiences in life.
We are not made for isolation and being alone isn’t much fun. We become better through the touch, the interaction, the support and the love of others. And while life isn’t always easy, I believe that even the conflicts, the hurts and the challenges can soften our soul and make us more human.
Life is an art. It’s our responsibility to make our connections deeply satisfying: By enriching other people’s lives, by giving of ourselves and by being able to receive in return, by sharing our love without holding back.
The language of love is acceptance. Drama, slander, judgment and opinions have no room here.
While engaging in a little gossip may feel good at the moment, it will ultimately create isolation and loneliness. I love the scene in Mad Men when Don Draper tells his colleagues: ”Don’t you have anything else to do besides dining on the drama of other people’s lives like a bunch of teenage girls?”
Instead of the drama, engage in loving activities that are productive and create a better world for you and the people around you. Make others right, look for the best in each person and ask them to perform to the best of their abilities. This will not only make them great but you as well.
If you long to have more intimate connections and friendships in your life and haven’t been able to meet the right people, here are a few things you can do.
Start by finding out what’s holding you back now. Do you think it’s too much work to get to know people? Are you secretly sabotaging your friendships by constantly wondering whether there is something in it for you? Are you too busy, fed up with people in general, or do you believe that you are not a people person?
Getting clear on this will shed some light on your current social agenda. There is nothing you have to do about it other than accepting it and moving on.
Next, ask yourself what kind of people you are interested in meeting. For this it’s great to know what it is you enjoy doing. If you love hiking, meet people who hike. If you like dancing, join a dance class. Make time for this even if you have a busy schedule. Meetup.com is a fantastic website to make new friends anywhere. It offers a huge variety of interesting groups from book lovers to motorcycle enthusiasts, wine aficionados, business professionals, singles, girlfriends, etc.
Finally, connect and stay in touch with the people you enjoyed meeting. Be positive, be interested and stay open to the possibilities you can create together.
Much love and as always, thank you for reading.
Find my Meetup Group “School of Love” here.
Read this related article: The Gift of Intimacy: How to Fall in Love With Yourself
Join us for a mini “Find Your Gift” Workshop on September 15th in Ventura.
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