When I ask my clients what they are passionate about I often get a blank stare and a shrug: “I am not sure.” 

If you are in a similar place, if you want to apply yourself to something you love and have no idea what you are good at or what your unique talents are, this post can help you on your path of self-discovery.

First, let me tell you that there is nothing wrong with being unclear about your calling or your unique qualities. It doesn’t mean that you are not a passionate or talented person. If at this point of your journey you don’t know who you are and what you want to do with your life, it’s all right. It happens to all of us.

By accepting this fact you already take a lot of the pressure off. Often, it’s the worries and expectations that cloud our vision and that make it so hard to see our ideal life and career path.

The more you relax and let go, the clearer you see what you want.  twit-bird {click to tweet}

For now, having a desire to find your path in life is a perfect beginning.

 

Three Simple Steps to Begin Your Journey of Self-Discovery:

 

1. Give yourself permission to explore. Let go of the unrealistic expectation that you have to have all the answers. Embrace the fact that you don’t. It’s a good place to start.

2. Foster curiosity. Now that you have permission, get interested in what makes you tick. What do you love doing? What are the activities that let you forget time?
While exploring, watch out for the critic in you. It might tell you that you have too many interests, are too slow, not determined enough, too old, don’t have credentials, are missing experience, etc. It’s subtle and it’s convincing.
Learn to practice self-love, self-regard, and self-appreciation. Embrace your fears and struggles. They are part of you. By accepting them you’ll experience deeper self-love and respect. Your life wants to work out. All you have to do is stay out of your own way and feel good about yourself.

3. Write it down. Start a “passion journal” that only you have access to. This can be a notebook that you carry with you wherever you go, your silent companion. Use it to record your thoughts and impressions about anything that inspire you, write love notes to yourself, capture new ideas and inspirations, note down self-observations, and reflect on the things in life you are grateful for.

I believe that we all have a mission in life that we are here to complete. With the three steps above you can clear your mind and start the process of self-exploration. You might observe that your creativity increases and that new ideas and inspirations come forward. Keep jotting them down in your notebook. Mostly, give yourself time to relax and to ponder. Trust that life will work out and that you, too will find your life’s purpose.

In next week’s post I’ll share additional steps and two practical exercises to further help you identify your unique qualities.

As always, thank you for reading,

Karin

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Want to find your passion in a book? I highly recommend Alive: A Practical Guide to Get Out of Your Head and into Your Heart.

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This post was first published on June 8, 2009