A big part of getting your life right starts with knowing your true self.
And that can be a challenging endeavor.
It doesn’t matter whether you want to create a breath-taking life style, find your ideal partner, or figure out what lights your fire – the first step in living a significant life begins with understanding what makes you tick – and letting go of what doesn’t.
If you are like most people, you are probably a bit unsure about your fabulous, wonderful self.
In a society that rewards fitting in and playing it safe, it’s easy to forget your true nature. Maybe you got chewed out for being rambunctious as a kid and thought that taming your wild side would make you more likable. However, this approach often fails and while we try to be someone we are not, we forget what it feels like to be alive.
How can you re-discover your true self?
Below are a few off-beat ways to start the process.
Be a Rebel For One Day
Don’t you love the idea of reinventing yourself? Slipping into a character that’s unfamiliar to your normal self? Now is the time. For one day, change who you are. Put on a wild outfit, slick back your hair, and act as your favorite rebel persona. You can model after someone from a movie or TV-Show or you can make up a completely new character. How would that person act? Walk? Talk? If you want to get into it, design and play your role as an actor would play a character in a movie.
Make a List of Who You Think You Are Not
Look beyond the person you think you are. On a piece of paper, list all the qualities you don’t think you possess. Once finished, look over your list. Which of the qualities turn you off, and which ones light you up? Look at the ones that inspire you and realize how they are a part of you.
One of my clients was convinced that she was extremely shy and that she didn’t have it in her to speak in front of an audience. However, every time she mentioned public speaking she began to glow. Once she realized how much she wanted to be in front of people, she started to take small steps towards it. To her surprise, not only did she love being on stage, she was also really good at it.
Pay Attention to What Lights You Up
Sometimes you can find yourself in paying attention to others. Do you admire certain people? Do you get aggravated when you hear others speak about their successes, adventures, or milestones they’ve achieved? Noticing your reaction to people, events, or stories can help you in discovering your hidden desires. If you find yourself getting jealous over your girlfriend getting married or your sister starting her own business, chances are that this is something you want to do yourself.
Finally, Ask Yourself These Questions
– If you had all the resources in the world and didn’t have to make money, what would you do with your life and why?
– At the end of your life, what would you regret not having done? Would you regret never having lived abroad or by the ocean? Would you regret not having had a family? Would you regret never having given your own business a go?
– If you had to choose three words to describe the person you’d love to be, which words would you pick? Here’s a hint: who you’d like to be is who you are at the core.
Enjoy the process and keep reinventing yourself. Life isn’t static and asking yourself who you are and who you want to be is a wonderful way of keeping it fresh and alive.
In the comment section below tell us: what are the three words that describe the person you’d love to be?
As always, thanks for reading.
Light & love,
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